The Surrendered Wife—Why I Believe In Submissiveness

Now, before you get all Feminista on me just from reading the title, “Why I believe in Submissiveness”, hear me out.

I read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle back when I was going through a few things and wanted to see what this book was all about. It resonated with me. A-LOT! Ya’ll know marriage ain’t easy. My first one had its good moments but didn’t work out so fantastically. I learned so much from that experience to the point that now I fully know what I want and what I don’t want from my second marriage, which is in full bloom right now. One thing I really want? For my man to be happy. (I got a good, good man, ya’ll!)

What Laura Doyle suggests is that we need to let go of the inappropriate control we try to force on our husbands and focus on our own happiness (say what?) in order to make things right as rain in the romance and intimacy departments of life. (And to make our men happy.) I can get down with that, and you should try, too!

There are six basic principles in The Surrendered Wife:

  1. A wife relinquishes control of her husband’s life
  2. She respects his decisions for his life
  3. She practices good self-care (she does at least three things a day for her own enjoyment)
  4. She practices expressing gratitude (thanking her husband for the things he does)
  5. A surrendered wife is not afraid to show her vulnerability and take the feminine approach
  6. She trusts him to handle household finances

Here’s what’s up: the majority of problems in a marriage pretty much come from communication and lack thereof. Now, I have learned just from my family alone, that I can be pretty bossy and a little controlling. That’s ok, it’s a truth, I’m fine with it. Done. I’m also quite firm at work; not bossy per se, but I direct a lot of people and projects; I don’t always have time to be vulnerable and be “feminine” (that’s another topic) or relinquish control on tasks ‘cause stuff has got to get done! But, but, BUT I don’t want to be that way in my marriage.

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