I was having dinner with a friend, she’s about 47 and she was telling me how even at this age, she is still dealing with trust issues; minor one’s like feeling anxious when a guy she’s dating doesn’t text her back right away. Now, my girlfriend said she knows, like really knows that the guy is into her, AND they’ve even set communication “boundaries” like, “We’ll talk when we talk, no pressure” and she agreed to that. Howev’s she can’t get around that icky feeling she gets when he doesn’t text back. We looked at each other and we said, “Trust Issues!”
We all deal with trust issues in one way or another, honey, big or small. I had to deal with them in previous relationships. But I was determined not to let that old baggage flow over into my new love and marriage. And maybe I’m being naïve (and in my 50’s no less). But I trust my husband wholeheartedly.
But I also know that when trust or the lack thereof rears its head, things can get real ugly, real fast. You won’t even recognize yourself if it gets too far outta hand. TRUST ME when I tell you I know what I’m talking about on this one: Trying to decode phone passwords. Checking credit card receipts for unexplained expenses. Following three car lengths behind while wearing a pair of shades and a baseball cap with a pair of binoculars laying on the seat beside you. BEEN THERE DONE THAT! And won’t ever go there again. These days my mission is helping to ensure YOU don’t go there either.
What do “trust issues” look like? Whether you’re afraid to share your inner thoughts with loved ones, or worried about becoming emotionally attached to anyone because people tend to disappoint or bail on you (and why set yourself up for another round of failure), or simply, you’re afraid, so like my girlfriend referenced above, your antennae goes up when someone you care about and have been vulnerable with doesn’t text you right back…These are trust issues. Still need some clarification? I’ve got some quizzes for you because what’s a psychological ailment without a quiz?
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