Where do you stand in the Dating and Keeping Game?
- If my man asked me to go Dutch, I’d ditch him.
- I’m the princess, and he is my king.
- If I don’t get flowers, I’m not happy.
Goody! You’ve landed yourself a man. You want to keep him. But what do you do? It goes without saying that the rules of the “Dating and Keeping Game” have changed. During our mothers’ time, men did the courting and the showering of gifts, and the women did the receiving. Well, it’s 2018, and those norms have jumped out the window! Or have they?
You all know I’m recently (re)married. I’ve got a keeper this time, y’all. The best man EVAH. What’s different about this relationship is that we respect each other … with our time, with our communication, with our showering of love. I’m pretty traditional. I do love getting flowers. (Tulips, anyone?) I love having the door held open for me, and sometimes, I like my love to order for me when we’re at a restaurant. That’s ME. My man likes to feel that he is taking care of me, and I love it! But this traditional girl also sends him flowers, still picks up the check every now and then, and surprises him with an unexpected act of service from time to time. (That’s his love language.)
Now for you all, you’ve gotta navigate if it is okay to go Dutch, or buy him flowers, or heck, even change his oil. (I’ve got some girlfriends who know a car inside and out, and are happy to get dirty. Me? Uh-uh!) The root of this thing is R-E-S-P-E-C-T. What does your man need to feel respected in the relationship?
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